In this media OBSESSED world it seems like, we are constantly comparing who we are or what we have with the WHOLE world. You know those moments, where you are scrolling Instagram, talking with friends, and simply living life. When lies start to creep in, "We are not good enough and never will be, we're not talented enough, not worthy enough, we'll always be stuck, etc." I know because this is a daily, moment by moment, hour by hour struggle to overcome the lies. So how, how do we overcome the lies and begin to believe truth about who God created and made you to be.
I want to start by saying this, our thoughts about and toward ourselves are SOO important. If our thoughts aren't in the right place, then we begin to harbor and think on unholy, and inaccurate things about who and whose we are. Overcoming lies starts in our thought process. If you wouldn't say it to your best friend do NOT say or think it about yourself.
"Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things." Philippians 4:8 NIV
Genesis 1:27 NIV says, "So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them."
"The weapons we fight with are not against the weapons of this world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to the obedience of Christ." 2 Corinthians 10:4-5 NIV (my emphasis added)
"I praise you because I am fearfully & wonderfully made; your works are wonderful,I know that full well." Psalms 139:14 NIV
"Yes, God raised Jesus to life! And since God's Spirit of Resurrection lives in you, he will also raise your dying body to life by the same Spirit that breathes life into you!" Romans 8:11 TPT
The same Spirit that rose Jesus Christ from the dead lives in US. We have the same authority to call out the lies in Jesus' name!In a recent devotion about lies and taking thoughts captive. I was reminded of a few things that encouraged my journey of battling and overcoming the lies I have allowed myself to believe. First things first, God is creative and creation belongs to Him. Second, satan isn't creative, and his lies only have power if we choose to agree and believe them. Finally, when we don't intentionally fill the space with God, the devil voice will become constant.
I want to go back to the bolded point above, "You have the same authority to call out the lies in Jesus' name!" At the sound of Jesus' name demons MUST flee, lies MUST flee, and all things must bow to Him. My youth pastor said in his sermon this past Sunday, "The devil isn't scared by you, he's scared of what God can do in you."
Here are some practical steps to overcoming lies when you feel defeated
As a society especially teens we are afraid to talk about saving sex for marriage and the why behind waiting. (Yes, you read the word sex on this blog.) This is something that I feel the church should teach on, and educate why it is important to wait and the Biblical truths about sex. I believe that saving sex for marriage is the best gift you can give to your future spouse. But why, why should we choose to wait? In this week's post I want to give you some practical tips when it comes to keeping your purity.
Let us just get this point out in the open, Sex is to be in the confines of marriage, between a man and his wife.Our sexuality is a good and beautiful thing. When used in the right contexts, but outside of marriage it is sinful. Sexual intimacy is to be a reflection of the intimate relationship we are able to have with Him. Ultimately purity is a choice.It is a dailychoice to choose to wait for your future spouse. No one can make you, not your parents, grand parents, aunt, uncle, or best friend. YOUmust choose for yourself if that is something you value. Disclaimer, as Christians we should all valued the things of God.
I began to value my purity, writing letters to my future spouse, and praying for our future together from a rather young age. (Hey, I guess you can't be too young when it comes to something like valuing your purity.;) As I began to study God's word and seek out mentors who would help hold me accountable, I saw the importance in saving myself for my spouse.
On my 16th birthday, I was given my purity ring to remind me of the decision I had already made. It was after my sweet sixteen party that I opened a little gold wrapped box with a ring that had a think gold band, and 3 diamonds. Which wasn't my favorite, I approached my parents explaining that I would wear this if they picked it out on purpose, other wise I would love something more classy. Possibly a smaller silver band, with a small diamond or small jewel. My parents both looked at me and said, "We can look at a new one, we just want you to have something you will wear." (I mean what parent gets there child a purity ring, and then doesn't want them to wear it, silly." Walking into one of the local jewelry stores, I looked around for a few minutes. Walked over to the birthstones, found the month "June" and proceeded to find the most elegant thin silver band, with a pearl on it. It was perfect! And the wait intensified, not only to be sexually pure, but I also the 2 week wait to have it sized, polished, and ready to remind me daily of the choice I made.
Going home and looking up the meaning of the word "Pearl" I found these definition, 1."a hard, lustrous spherical mass, typically white or bluish-gray, formed within the shell of a pearl oyster or other bivalve mollusk and highly prized as a gem." 2. a person or thing of great rarity and worth. (Definitions from Google)
I don't think I could have chosen a better jewel to be on my purity ring. Definition 2, " a person or thing of great rarity and worth." My purity, and your purity is a thing of great rarity and worth. That is why it is SO important to stay pure, until you are unified with your Mr.Right. Purity is not something you can or should give to everyone. It is meant for one man, God's chosen man for you. Every morning when I put my purity ring on, or look down at my left hand I am reminded on the promise I made to myself, my future spouse, and God.
Genesis 2:24-25 says this,
"This is why a man is to leave his father and mother and is to be unified with his wife, and the two will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame." (my emphasis added)
I want to leave you with some practical tips on how to stay pure in your relationship.
I am soo happy to be back! I truly did miss blogging over the last two months. A few things have changed since my last blog post. I merged Simply Loving Jesus and my personal account Makyna Elise. In doing so, I hope to devote more time to YOU! I am still serving women in the midst of their suffering to help them embrace their journey all while simply loving Jesus. You can still find me on all my platforms.
I am also launching a virtual coffee date with yours truly! Coffee with Makyna is a virtual coffee date on Instagram LIVE. It will happen once a month, where we will chat about all the things! Some months may be focused toward a certain topic, and other months I will bring on some of the people I find encouraging, inspiring, and hands down awsome, and I know you will too! The first Coffee with Makyna LIVE is tomorrow, Saturday August 31,2019 over on my Instagram @makyna.elise
I thought before we jumped in I’d share a few things you MUST know about me!
Keep reading for this week’s blog post..
Over the summer I spent numerous hours in the car, and found a few podcasts that I really enjoyed. One of my favorites was episode 8 of Jeremy & Audrey Roloff’s Behind the Scenes Podcast. This episode is centered around the verse Ephesians 3:20, “Now to him who is able to do immeasurbly more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,”
This topic of "Always More" very quickly became special to my heart. It left me empowered knowing that there was always more according to His power at work in me. It means that no matter what is going on in or around my life God is using His spirit through me.
There are always more test to beat, always more painful days to conquer, always more joy ahead, always more time with Jesus, always more love to give away, always more peace, grace, and mercy, always more breakthrough to come, always more victory, always more blogs to write, always more posts to posts, always more coffee to drink, always more books to be read, always more adventures to be had, always more memories to make, always more people that simply need Jesus.
I challenge you to listen to this podcast episode and share with someone what always more means to you!
Until next week,
Girlfriend, fiancee, wife, homemaker, and mother are all titles I dream of tenaciously holding. They are each desires God has placed in this BIG heart.
To say I was not created to dream would be the biggest lie! Ask anyone of my friends they will tell you that I just don't stop.
You see, dreamers constantly dream. In fact it is quite hard to stop. Dreaming of the man God has me "patiently" waiting for (well as patient as one can) , the company I hope to be the CEO of, college, the house I will make a home, the adventures I will take, speaking engaments I will some day speak at, and SO SO SO much more. I really do enjoy dreaming. It's almost NEVER a dull moment in my brain, and if you spent 3.5 seconds in there you would probably be so confused, because I just go from one thought to another, to another.
A few months ago I called a friend, this friend is a fellow dreamer. We often call each other when we feel no one else under stands our God size dreams. Usually our conversations jump from one subject to the next, but this particular call wasn't like any other. I dream so much that when I don't see those dreams come to pass it can be discouraging. I had been struggling with the gift of dreaming God had so graciously given me.
I expressed to this friend that I didn't want to dream anymore, that I felt I was only hurting myself by dreaming and hoping for these things. By not seeing them come to pass. I just "couldn't do it anymore. My heart couldn't handle it. She replied with this, "Makyna, what if your job is to dream? What if God uses those dreams to do something incredible?" If I'm being honest I didn't really want to hear that. But it's what I needed to hear.
In a recent quiet time I was hit with a bit of a harsh reality. I don't know how you best connect with Jesus, but worship is one of my favorite ways to connect with him. It bring peace and refreshment to my soul. During this particular quiet time I just couldn't find the "right" song. You know what I mean? The song that makes you feel just over the verge of warm and fuzzy, but yet uncomfortable, and says all the words you want to say to Jesus but feel like your words are not good enough. Yeah, too often I find myself searching for these songs.
As I began to think and God began to convice me about what our culture and generations have made worship to be. God reminded me of a few things I learned a while back about this beautiful lifestyle of worship. That's exactly what worship is, it's a lifestyle. Worship is living in a state of adoration, devotion, and reverence to God EVERYDAY in EVERYTHING you do. It's not about the song that makes you feel good, it's not about who is leading (boy was this one extremely convicing,) and it's not about where you worship.
Lets touch a little bit on each of the points above for a moment.
Do you know what kind of songs I am refering to? I'm talking about those songs, that make your relationship with Jesus look good, and easy. For example the songs, "Reckless Love" or "What a Beautiful Name" are two songs I think of when thinking about feel good songs . BUT PLEASE HEAR ME OUT, I'm not saying these songs are bad. No way, at times in my walk with the Lord they have reminded me and encouraged me, that his love doesn't leave me, and that there is power in his name. But when we get caught up in the lyric. We can sometimes get distracted with who He really is and ultimately what he may be speaking or wants to speak to you.
2. Worship isn't about who is leading
This point had me a bit conviced, at my youth group we rotate students into the band on Wednesday nights. I have several very musically gifted friends, and seeing or better hearing them sing or play is always fun. But it's not only at youth group that I began to see myself "worshipping" or "idolizing" my friends. I (and maybe you do too) saw this when Hillsong, Bethel, and other bands released new songs and I just had to listen to them. Not only was I listening to them once but constantly. I never focused on who Jesus was and how the song showed me HIM. Worship isn't about whose leading. It's about Whose speaking and wanting mine and your attention.
3. It's not about where you worship
So if worship is living in a state of adoration, devotion, and reverence to God everyday in everthing we do. Then worship can't just happen in a church sactuary and when the band is on stage. I doubt you or I live in our church's sanctuary and our bands can't play all the time. Worship happens when you run with the purpose God has already put inside you, it's when we love our neighbors as ourselves, and worship should be shown in our actions, at Target, School, and everywhere we go. Worship happens when we are meeting consistently on our own time with Jesus.
Mike Bickle says, "Worship is not a twenty minute period during a church service, but relating to God in a particular way." I couldn't agree more. It's meeting and falling deeply in love with Jesus.
This week I challenge you to live in a state of worship. Adoring, devoting, and being reverent to the God everyday in everything you do! It might be the mondane little things that turn into your time of worship, for instance washing dishes, folding laundry, or cleaning your room might be where God meets you. Maybe this week you will notice that during your twenty minute time of worship in a church service, you come expectant to hear Him like never before. Talk to God ask him to show you areas that need to change. I promise he will show you if only you be still and listen.
It's Friday night, you don't have big plans, in fact doing a face mask, painting your nails, and binge watching Netflix sounds like the best way to unwind after a busy, insane week. Girl, I get you sometimes it's nice to pamper yourself and just relax, but I believe that pampering and self care look a bit different.
Alright here we go let's dig in,
I am currently reading a book called "Dance, Stand, Run" by Jess Connolly, in chapter four Jess (I guess we are on a first name basis now.. lol) goes into detail about her weekly date with her husband and the glass of wine she enjoys after the week of running and doing all the things. Now before you click the exit button at the top of your screen stick with me because I plan (with God's help) to tie this all together. It is not the wine itself that is bad. No, it's our motive behind things that causes something to become unhealthy.
You see, too much of something with the wrong motive behind it causes that thing to become unhealthy whether we mentally recognize it or not. For instance, Jess begins to explain that she wasn't enjoying her wine but rather wanted to numb the busyness of life, and to relax faster. But here is the thing, God placed her right where she needed to be, and instead of running to a glass of wine for peace and relaxation she began to ask herself the "why?" behind the motive and found that ultimate peace, refreshment, and relaxation didn't come from the wine but from her time spent with the Lord.
So here is where you and I come in. For us it should not be wine, because I know majority of my readers are under 21, BUT there are things in our lives that takeaway from where we should be running to God and allowing Him to step in and be our peace, and joy. Whether we numb and drowned out the noise by binge watch Netflix, scrolling Instagram, Facebook, or Pintrest, calling a friend instead of processing life with God. And this topic of pampering and self care.
Now, please hear me out before you just think that I don't agree with pampering (face masks, painting nails, and watching Netflix etc.) No, I do these things often with my sisters, but we shouldn't ultimately find peace, and relaxation from pampering. Those things should come from one on one time spent with the Lord. Instead of our self care routine being spend doing face masks, and painting nails. Our self care routine should consist of daily spending time with the Lord and worshiping Him with the way we live our lives and seek Him.
That is true self care, 1st Peter 3:3-5 tell us this, "Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves."
A gentle and quiet spirit isn't found by your pampering routine, it is developed in the time spent with the Lord. Reading and speaking scripture over your life and self. I want to increase my time spent with the Lord, and I hope that after reading and digging into today's blog you do too.
True beauty if found on the inside and that is developed by time spent with the Lord. This week I challenge you this week to change your routine from pampering to self care spent in the Bible.
To the girl that feels overwhelmed this is for you. I want you to walk away feeling encouraged and refreshed by the words spoken today!
We live in a society that never stops hustling. Seriously, like when do people sleep? But I don't think God intended for us to hustle as hard as we do! You see, often (if not always) when you are hustling you aren't focused on the one thing that truly matters. I can almost bet that you probably hustle right past the most important part of your day. And that is time with Jesus.
I know for me it is so easy to get into this pattern where when things, and tasks need to be completed. I think that time with Jesus should wait. BUT HOLD UP.. why do we think hustling before Jesus should come first? Because we have believed the lies and schemes of the devil who has take over too many times and what is his goal in life? John 10:10a says, "The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy."
So the devil's (notice I'm not capitalizing his name because I don't want him to have power in my or your life) goal is to steal, kill, and destroy. When he can steal your sense of peace (the opposite of overwhelm) he has control over you. he is given recognition and authority in your life. he wants you to feel overwhelmed, not enough, and worthlessness, because it gives him power.
The other part of John 10:10 says, "I come that you may have life, and have it to the full." God came to give life and to give it to the full, but God didn't give you a life that is full of overwhelm, not feeling enough, or full of doubt. God came to give you a life full of joy, peace, worthiness, value, and so much more.
Why is it so easy to become overwhelmed and not full of the peace given to you by God almighty. Well, because when you aren't in His word. You don't know truth, and when you don't know truth that is when satan's lies are so easy to believe. If satan can distract you away from God's truth then he gets you into the perfect low place of believing his lies.
So I thought I would share some of my favorite Bible verses that speak against overwhelm.
This week I challenge you to take time when you feel overwhelmed to 1 or 2 of these verses.
What is your favorite verse against overwhelm?
Ever feel like the world around you is just so noisy or maybe just your head feels noisy. I get you, we live in a world that’s constantly pushing us to do more, be more and have more. Sometimes it’s all just plain hard to find a balance and peace when inside everything feels crazy.
Now that I have to spend a good amount of my time resting, I have found I can easily become restless and impatient with the season I’m in. Do you ever feel yourself wanting to rush to the next season because you believe the lie that it’ll be better?
Something I also notice can sometimes leave me feeling uneasy is extra scrolling through Instagram, don’t get me wrong I love Instagram (like a lot) but sometimes it’s just too much having your dream live displayed on your phone with someone else living it.
These are just some examples from my own life that I have noticed that leave me restless and craving peace. Maybe you can relate to them or you’ve thought of your own situation?
So what’s the answer to this longing, uneasy feeling that fills us deep inside?
I know that answer is probably not exactly what you wanted or maybe you expected it but stay with me, I would like to share this lesson I’m learning with you.
You know that answer I just gave you, seems simple in theory right? But we tend to over complicate it all and try get the perfect answer and sort it all out ourselves, trying to find peace in other things around is.
But maybe it is as ‘simple’ as just continually coming back to Jesus and reminding yourself of His truth through His word. It’s hard, oh do I know how hard this is, but He offers us grace and constant love. And this is just not a once off, tick off your to do list kind of thing, it’s a constant thing. Sometimes I have to ask for help and strength not just daily but hourly or even more often.
In John 16:33, God clearly gives us hope for our restless bodies by reminding us that He is so much bigger than all these uncertainties and trials.
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."
I’m in this with you, I see you trying your best and feel your pain in this struggle to find peace. Please just keep going, God sees your effort, He knows your heart. One day at a time.
Friend, you don’t have to buy into the lies the world is feeding you about where you can find your peace and contentment, keep fixing your eyes on Jesus.
fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God-Hebrews 12:2 (NIV)
-The Different Girl-
Do you find yourself struggling when it comes to devotions? What do I study? Mornings are too early! I have no time. Let me tell you. It's not as hard as we make it! No seriously, its NOT! It quite simple in the end. I love studying the Bible. My favorite part of my day is watching the sun rise, with coffee and my Bible. Here are some of my favorite ways and tools to uses during my devotions.
3 of my favorite ways to study.
2. Be VERY discipline and consistent At first finding a time whether in the morning or in the evening will probably be hard. Did you know that it takes 42 days to make a habit and that if you miss one of those days your body starts over? I think that's were finding a friend to hold you accountable comes in or if you have a smart phone you can use the YouVersion Bible app (Android or Apple) to help you get start. This app has a verse of the day, tons and tons of devotion plans, AND they also let you set daily reminders to stop and read the plan you choose. It counts your streaks and if you miss a day you start over! This is been a BIG step in building the habit to start devotions in my own life.
3. Right now media is like the Christian Netflix! No I'm serious they have TONS of awesome Bible Videos with authors like Francis Chan, David Platt & so many more. This has been super helpful if you want to study a specific topic or book in the Bible. They have lots of different teachers! This is what I will be using when my small group meets! Link here: Right Now Media
Remember that you don't have to spend hours and hours doing your devotions! Its not the amount of time you spend doing devotions. Spending more times in your Bible doesn't make you a better Christian. But once you begin you may find yourself wanting to spend more and more time in the word.
I also wanted to share with you my Bible study tools
I'd have to say that my favorite Bible study tool is my Bible. For my 16th birthday I was given a Journaling Bible (and it's currently on sale) and it is has been so fun when it comes to reading and taking notes on Scripture.
I'm not saying that you need a journaling Bible to have a quiet time but I am sharing that this has changed my quiet time. I love that I can take notes next to the passage of Scripture I am reading, and that I don't have to search through a notebook for the notes to that Scripture.
Pens & Highlighter
I really loving color coding scripture! This step is pretty basic find a highlighter and set of pens you like. But I wanted to share my favorite products with you.
The pens I use to take notes in my Bible, are Paper Mate Ink Gel Pens Gel pens are my favorite! Depending on how hard you push when you write they can bleed, but over all they are pretty great. Another set of pens I like if you you choose to do art are the Paper Mate Felt Pens (Assorted) Again, if you press to hard they will show a little bleeding it just depends on the thickness/type of paper you use.
You can definitely use have any pens you have! No pressure, just thought I'd share my favorites
For highlighters I use whatever I can find around the house. Usually that is Sharpie Slim Assorted Highlighters
Journal for Notes
I don't know about you but I love to take notes, there is just not always enough room in my journaling Bible so I need more space. I love to write down the things God is teaching me, doing in my life, dreams I have, prayer requests, & so much more! I usual just pick up a cheap yet cute notebook from my local target!
I am terrible when it comes to purchasing Bible studies because well after all I'm in high school and money can be tight. But, there are SO many free resources out there. My pintrest has several options, like I said above I sometimes use Right Now Media, but my favorite FREE resource is my fellow blogger friend Jenny's Little Faith Bible Plan. Back in December 2018 I shared why I love this plan! This month she is taking us all over the Bible.
Good Christian Books
There are WAY too many books I can recommend! I just recently read Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist
and Love Does by Bob Goff. Stay tuned cause I am about to do a big book haul!
I hope you find some encouragement when it comes to doing your daily quiet time, and that these tools help you fall in love with Jesus and your time with Him. Remember, that your quiet time does not have to be perfect. Give it your everything and simply love Jesus! 5 minutes is better than no time.
Thanks for being here!
If you find this post encouraging, inspiring, and empowering would you please leave a comment! I read and reply to every comment! It also helps me create content that you need and love! -Makyna