Hey awesome people, I can you believe this is the last Monday in February 2019! Crazy! This I am so excited to share this post with you! Enjoy -
At the beginning of 2018 a friend and I were talking over coffee about fun ways that we have started preparing for our future husbands. I told her that when I was younger I made a list of the things I wanted in a husband and that I have prayed over him (and still do everyday.) She began telling me about this awesome journal that one of her youth leaders gave her in high school called a "Wait for Me Journal." It's a journal full of fun little writing prompts that you can write about until you meet Mr. Right! Then on your wedding night (or when your ready) you can give it to him to read. I told her that was really sweet and sounded like a beautiful gift. She told me that if I bought a notebook she would make me this journal in another book. I thought I would share with you some of the journal prompts from this journal. You can write these journal prompts in another notebook and someday let him read them. One of my favorite ways to end the day is by writing in this book. It has slowly become my favorite journal I have (and I have a LOT.) I hope that you enjoy reading through these journal prompts and making your own journal.
What is one way thing you enjoy doing as you prepare to have a husband and become a wife?
I really enjoy writing and dreaming about the future with him. I love praying for him and the life we will have together!
Tag me on Instagram or comment here letting me know your favorite ways to prepare! I love hearing from you!
Hey everyone so last month Makyna approached me and said how she was
doing a section of her blog about relationships, and asked if I would be willing to help
her out by writing a section for her. Her initial request was that she wanted to bring a
male point of view towards the topic of relationships, and who better to do that than
me. So for this little exert I would like to refer to the Book of Ephesians, because next to
Songs of Solomon this is your best chance of finding relationship guidance. The Passage I’m
going to be referring to is Ephesians 5: 21-28 I'm going to be using the NIV translation.
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
For any of you reading this who don’t have much knowledge of the Bible I will fill
you in. The book of Ephesians is a letter written by the Apostle Paul to the church and
people in the city of Ephesus. The letter is meant to help strengthen the young church
that has sprouted in the city. Over the years I have heard several arguments where
people claim that this passage can be viewed as sexist, but after reading and studying
this passage I have really seen the true beauty and unity that is being taught from this
passage. The common misconception with this passage is that readers just quickly
read through it and assume that Paul is saying that the men has authority and that
wives should submit willingly to their husbands, but I don’t see it that way.
For a person to truly understand what a passage of scripture is saying you have
to look back at the original language of either Greek or Hebrew because other time
Words and meanings can be lost in translations. For example, with this passage the word
head has lost its true meaning. In the original Greek the word used for head is kephalē.
Now when you do a word study on this you discover that the word head can also mean
leader and teacher, and in the context of Greek it is used in where yes the male is
placed over the wife, but it is in a respectful and protective role not an authoritative role
he defines submission as how Jesus submitted himself to the church, and Jesus led
the church with love, grace, and kindness, not with a demanding authoritative manner.
But that is not the most interesting part of the passage. Now as you keep reading
through the passage Paul states that wives should submit to their husband but also a
husband must submit to his wife. You see, Paul teaches that marriages and
relationships require mutual respect. It calls for submission from both parties hence
eliminating the authoritative stereotype of the male.
For relationships to work it requires two people, it requires determination and
persistence. It can’t be something that you are ok with only going half way with. A
phrase that I lime to say is “ the purpose of dating is to find the person you want to
marry.” Now I’m not trying to break up any relationships or cause trouble, but I want to
challenge you. If you are in a relationship ask yourself that question. If you answer no
to that question then don’t continue to waste your time or theirs. Lastly I want to say
that relationships require time. If you are married or dating someone take some time
out of your day to let them know that you still are about them and are thinking about
them. In my opinion and experience, it is the littlest of things that will be remembered
and make the biggest of impacts.
Happy Monday! I am so excited to dig into today's topic godly women and their character!
First I thought today we were start in Proverbs 31 focusing on verses 10-31
"10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is far more worth than rubies. 11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. 12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. 13 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. 14 She is like the merchant ships, bringing in her food from afar. 15 She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions to her servants. 16 She considers a field and buys it, out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. 17 She sets about her works vigorously; her arms are strong from her tasks. 18 She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. 19 In her hands she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. 20 She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. 21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. 22 She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. 23 Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. 24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. 25 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. 26 She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue. 27 She watches over her affairs of her household and does not eat bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her. 29 Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. 30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fear the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gates."
Well, let me explain a little bit about the book of Proverbs. The book of Proverbs was written by Solomon (King David's son) as a new way to teach the ancient people using shorter sentences on several topics. Teaching by Proverb was a plain and easy taking little explanation. This chapter in particular is believed to be written/taught by the mother of King Lemuel. Teaching her son to not be tempted by the fleshly desires but to look for a women of godly characteristics and virtue.
Verses 10 through 31 gives us an example of what a women of virtue looks like. A virtuous women is a women of spirit; she is strong in wisdom, grace and fears God. She is modest, diligent, thrifty, dutiful to her husband, careful of her family, discreet in her discourse, and in the education of her children, and conscientious in her duty to God. A women of this who can find? Her price is far more precious than rubies. The more rare these type of women are the more they are valued. A virtuous women is industrious and her husband has full confidence in her. She never gives him a reason to become jealous. He trusts in her commitment to saving sex for marriage. Verses 12 through 24 explain how she goes about her work and livelihood. She is a women that works hard so that her husband is respected, and her family is clothed.
Verse 25 says, "She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come." A women of virtue clothes herself in strength, and honor. It brings her joy to serve others, her husband, and her family. And she serves well all the days of her life. She is not worried about the days to come but laughs or rejoices because she knows she has lived a purposeful life and her family is well taken care of. Verse 30 says," Charm is deceptive & beauty is fleeting but a women who fears the Lord is to be praised. " True beauty is found in the character of her heart and her worship and life lived for God.
1 Peter 3:3-4 says "3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight."
Ladies, your beauty does not come from outward adornment. It is that of the virtuous women gentle, and quiet in spirit. You are worth far more precious that rubies. SO DO NOT SETTLE!!
If you have yet to meet Mr, Right. Wait, God's timing is perfect and you never know what is on the other side of your patience. True love waits, in your waiting begin to pray and ask God to grow you in this season of waiting. Prepare your heart for where God is taking you next. Something I have found to be helpful in my waiting is to write letters to my future spouse sometimes they include something on my heart, something I can't wait to do with him, or a desire from my heart for our future together. I also created and am still adding to a list of characteristic I want in my future husband. I will be sharing this in the weeks to come! I challenge you to do the same. Some of the characteristics on my list are desires of my heart and some are characteristics I found in scripture. Let your heart and mind dream. Then PRAY those characteristics over your future husband. Also ladies, remember that the man you are dating not may not be your forever, but he is someone's forever. Treat him the way your pray someone is treating your future husband.
Men, a virtuous women in modest, diligent, thrifty, dutiful to her husband, careful of her family, discreet in everything she does, and conscience in her duty to God. Men just because women show you there body doesn't mean it's right and you should pursue her. Remember that if she is not your future spouse she is someone else's spouse. Leave her better than you found her! Next week we will be speaking to the godly characteristics on men! I am so excited for our guest blogger to share his thoughts with you! Anyways, men you are the leader in the relationship. One of the first things I included on my list of characteristic to look for in a man is that he leads me to God and also that he spends time with God personally and leads devotions together. Like I told the ladies, you too can create a list of characteristics for your future wife. Let you heart dream and also ask God to show you what to add. Then PRAY those characteristics over your future wife.
Ladies and Gents listen up!! Don't settle. God has a spouse waiting on the other side of your obedience and patience. Trust in his perfect timing and remember that true love waits. Trust love waits in timing, it waits to save sex for marriage, and it waits for the other to be fully ready. *This topic of waiting will be covered more in the weeks to come!*
Hello beautiful people! Happy Monday, and Welcome to February! This month I decided to step out of my comfort zone and dedicate the month of February to talking about godly relationships and godly characteristics of men and women. Enjoy!
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps not record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
I love this passage of scripture because it not only shows what love does, but what love shouldn't do.
Love is patient. Patience is hard, am I right? I mean tolerating the person that drives you crazy or not becoming anxious about anything is very hard. One of my biggest struggles with patience definitely is in the category of singleness and dating. When one of my friends enter into a new relationship I find myself envying (which love doesn't do) that friend and not remembering that God is preparing me and my future spouse's heart for our life together. He is teaching us what we may not be able to learn without being right where we are RIGHT NOW and for the time being that is apart from each other.
"Love is patient, love is kind."
Without patience can you have true kindness? Kindness is an attitude. It is choosing others over yourself. Being completely considerate of the other person.
"It does not envy, boast, and it is not proud. It does not dishonor, self- seek, become easily angered, and keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with truth."
Love does not become jealous because it knows that it's time is coming. Love celebrates with others even when you yourself have yet to see the blessings or promises from God yourself. Love doesn't boast. It is not proud or prideful. It doesn't seek self promotion. True love doesn't not think of self above others. It humbles and serves others. Love doesn't look down on others. Love says "all people are loved and valued."
"It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."
This final part of these verses always lights a flicker of excitement in my soul. Why you might ask well because, love is to always protect. To keep one safe from harm. Many times people think it is the man's job to protect. NO, it is both the man and women's job to protect to keep one from harm and injury. I think the reason I like this part of these verses is because I want to know someone is there to protect and care for me. Then you have trust and hope. To trust in someone means you firmly believe in them. Relationships MUST be built on trust or they will go nowhere. To hope in someone means you expect nothing but the best for that one person. Don't we all want that in life. To know that someone chose you, trusts in you, and hopes in you. I know I do. And finally "love perseveres" Love doesn't give up at the first sign of hardship, disagreement, or difficulties. It fights, and fights, and forgives always. Love is worth the fight.
If you're anything like me you read these verses and think "Wow, I can't live up to that. I will never be good enough to love.... and on and on" But here's the best part. It's okay! You are not meant to be able to love perfectly. Why? Because if you could love perfectly then there would be no need for a perfect loving Father like Jesus. Jesus is the only person who will ever be able to meet all the dos in the verses above. Jesus is the perfect example of love. That's why it is so important to have a relationship centered around Jesus. Because your earthly love will fail, but with Jesus sin is forgiven and love is restored. His perfect love for you never fails. No matter what your earthly love does.
In the comments below tell me how 1st Corinthians love is portrayed in your friendships, and dating relationships. Also, let me know what your favorite part of these verse are! I love to hear from you!
Thanks for being here!
If you find this post encouraging, inspiring, and empowering would you please leave a comment! I read and reply to every comment! It also helps me create content that you need and love! -Makyna