Hey everyone so last month Makyna approached me and said how she was
doing a section of her blog about relationships, and asked if I would be willing to help
her out by writing a section for her. Her initial request was that she wanted to bring a
male point of view towards the topic of relationships, and who better to do that than
me. So for this little exert I would like to refer to the Book of Ephesians, because next to
Songs of Solomon this is your best chance of finding relationship guidance. The Passage I’m
going to be referring to is Ephesians 5: 21-28 I'm going to be using the NIV translation.
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
For any of you reading this who don’t have much knowledge of the Bible I will fill
you in. The book of Ephesians is a letter written by the Apostle Paul to the church and
people in the city of Ephesus. The letter is meant to help strengthen the young church
that has sprouted in the city. Over the years I have heard several arguments where
people claim that this passage can be viewed as sexist, but after reading and studying
this passage I have really seen the true beauty and unity that is being taught from this
passage. The common misconception with this passage is that readers just quickly
read through it and assume that Paul is saying that the men has authority and that
wives should submit willingly to their husbands, but I don’t see it that way.
For a person to truly understand what a passage of scripture is saying you have
to look back at the original language of either Greek or Hebrew because other time
Words and meanings can be lost in translations. For example, with this passage the word
head has lost its true meaning. In the original Greek the word used for head is kephalē.
Now when you do a word study on this you discover that the word head can also mean
leader and teacher, and in the context of Greek it is used in where yes the male is
placed over the wife, but it is in a respectful and protective role not an authoritative role
he defines submission as how Jesus submitted himself to the church, and Jesus led
the church with love, grace, and kindness, not with a demanding authoritative manner.
But that is not the most interesting part of the passage. Now as you keep reading
through the passage Paul states that wives should submit to their husband but also a
husband must submit to his wife. You see, Paul teaches that marriages and
relationships require mutual respect. It calls for submission from both parties hence
eliminating the authoritative stereotype of the male.
For relationships to work it requires two people, it requires determination and
persistence. It can’t be something that you are ok with only going half way with. A
phrase that I lime to say is “ the purpose of dating is to find the person you want to
marry.” Now I’m not trying to break up any relationships or cause trouble, but I want to
challenge you. If you are in a relationship ask yourself that question. If you answer no
to that question then don’t continue to waste your time or theirs. Lastly I want to say
that relationships require time. If you are married or dating someone take some time
out of your day to let them know that you still are about them and are thinking about
them. In my opinion and experience, it is the littlest of things that will be remembered
and make the biggest of impacts.
Thanks for being here!
If you find this post encouraging, inspiring, and empowering would you please leave a comment! I read and reply to every comment! It also helps me create content that you need and love! -Makyna