As a society especially teens we are afraid to talk about saving sex for marriage and the why behind waiting. (Yes, you read the word sex on this blog.) This is something that I feel the church should teach on, and educate why it is important to wait and the Biblical truths about sex. I believe that saving sex for marriage is the best gift you can give to your future spouse. But why, why should we choose to wait? In this week's post I want to give you some practical tips when it comes to keeping your purity.
Let us just get this point out in the open, Sex is to be in the confines of marriage, between a man and his wife.Our sexuality is a good and beautiful thing. When used in the right contexts, but outside of marriage it is sinful. Sexual intimacy is to be a reflection of the intimate relationship we are able to have with Him. Ultimately purity is a choice.It is a dailychoice to choose to wait for your future spouse. No one can make you, not your parents, grand parents, aunt, uncle, or best friend. YOUmust choose for yourself if that is something you value. Disclaimer, as Christians we should all valued the things of God.
I began to value my purity, writing letters to my future spouse, and praying for our future together from a rather young age. (Hey, I guess you can't be too young when it comes to something like valuing your purity.;) As I began to study God's word and seek out mentors who would help hold me accountable, I saw the importance in saving myself for my spouse.
On my 16th birthday, I was given my purity ring to remind me of the decision I had already made. It was after my sweet sixteen party that I opened a little gold wrapped box with a ring that had a think gold band, and 3 diamonds. Which wasn't my favorite, I approached my parents explaining that I would wear this if they picked it out on purpose, other wise I would love something more classy. Possibly a smaller silver band, with a small diamond or small jewel. My parents both looked at me and said, "We can look at a new one, we just want you to have something you will wear." (I mean what parent gets there child a purity ring, and then doesn't want them to wear it, silly." Walking into one of the local jewelry stores, I looked around for a few minutes. Walked over to the birthstones, found the month "June" and proceeded to find the most elegant thin silver band, with a pearl on it. It was perfect! And the wait intensified, not only to be sexually pure, but I also the 2 week wait to have it sized, polished, and ready to remind me daily of the choice I made.
Going home and looking up the meaning of the word "Pearl" I found these definition, 1."a hard, lustrous spherical mass, typically white or bluish-gray, formed within the shell of a pearl oyster or other bivalve mollusk and highly prized as a gem." 2. a person or thing of great rarity and worth. (Definitions from Google)
I don't think I could have chosen a better jewel to be on my purity ring. Definition 2, " a person or thing of great rarity and worth." My purity, and your purity is a thing of great rarity and worth. That is why it is SO important to stay pure, until you are unified with your Mr.Right. Purity is not something you can or should give to everyone. It is meant for one man, God's chosen man for you. Every morning when I put my purity ring on, or look down at my left hand I am reminded on the promise I made to myself, my future spouse, and God.
Genesis 2:24-25 says this,
"This is why a man is to leave his father and mother and is to be unified with his wife, and the two will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame." (my emphasis added)
I want to leave you with some practical tips on how to stay pure in your relationship.
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